The Power of a Digital Contract with Your Kids

Why a digital contract?

A digital contract is more than just a list of rules; it’s a tool for discussion and understanding. It helps your child understand expectations, the reasons behind them, and the potential consequences of misuse. It also empowers them to take responsibility for their online actions.

Crafting your contract

Screen time limits

When establishing screen time limits, it’s important to have a discussion and agreement with your child. For weekdays, consider factors like homework, after-school activities, and bedtime routines, and aim for a reasonable limit. (Perhaps around one hour of recreational screen time.)

Weekends can offer more flexibility, but still, agree on a boundary that balances screen time with outdoor play, family time, and other activities, such as two hours on Saturday and Sunday. Finally, determine how you will track screen time, whether by using a timer, an app, or simply trusting your child to manage their own time. You can also use devices like the Wireless Nation Plume modem and HomePass App to set time limits on individual devices.

Online safety expectation

For online safety, it’s crucial to emphasize to your child that if anyone online makes them feel uncomfortable, offers to buy them anything, or asks for personal information, they must immediately tell you or another trusted adult, assuring them they won’t get in trouble for reporting such incidents.

Additionally, teach them never to share personal information like their name, address, phone number, or school name online without your permission. Finally, explain that they should never agree to meet someone they’ve met online in person without your knowledge and supervision.

Online etiquette – minding their manners

For online etiquette, clearly state that cyberbullying is unacceptable, including sending mean messages, spreading rumors, or excluding others online, and discuss what constitutes bullying and its potential harm. Encourage your child to be kind and respectful in all online interactions, especially in multiplayer games, reminding them that there’s a real person on the other side of the screen.

Promote the use of positive language and avoiding hurtful words or insults while playing games or chatting online. Regarding content and downloads, state that they must ask for permission before downloading any apps, games, or files to prevent malware and ensure access to age-appropriate content, and discuss what kind of content is suitable and explain why certain websites or games might be off-limits.

Finally, outline the consequences for breaking the agreement, such as a temporary loss of screen time or other privileges, and consider positive reinforcement for following the rules, like extra screen time on special occasions or other small rewards.

Making it official!

To make your digital contract official, create a physical or digital document that both you and your child sign, lending it a sense of importance. It’s also essential to review the contract regularly, perhaps monthly or quarterly, as your child’s online needs and risks will change over time, necessitating adjustments. Above all, open communication is the most vital aspect; encourage your child to talk to you about their online experiences, both positive and negative, to ensure ongoing safety and understanding.

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